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About Coyalita

I was born and raised in the great state of Oklahoma where I lived until I was age thirty two. Traumatic events from Domestic Violence left me in a hole I could not get out of for 23 years of my life. The things I write about on these pages are actual events of my own life and therefore it is my passion to spread the word concerning these issues. I am a Behavioral Rehabilitative Specialist (B.H.R.S), I have a Masters Degree in Public Health, Masters Degree in Addiction Counseling, a Baccalaureates Degree in Criminal Justice and an Associates Degree in Corrections, and Baccalaureates Degree in Ministry. I have worked in each of these fields for a number of years and there is not much I do not know about each one. I have made it my life's objective to continue education and learn all there is about life and society. I currently live in Oklahoma after an adventure to Texas where I met and fell in love with my husband today, and we visited the great state of Kansas and lived there for many years. Yet, Oklahoma has a way of always puling me back home. So now I have set my tree and rooted here on my farm within the peace and quiet of the wildlife, trees whispering, and wonderful wild flowers that grow and console my soul. And here I am with you today to share all my knowledge and help you in every way I can do so, but one thing I learned along life's way is that sometimes one has to want to help themselves as well. I look forward to traveling your journey with you. Peace Always

Have You Heard About DHS NEWEST POLICIES?

The Department of Human Services has new policies concerning the elderly who are on SNAP (food benefits) once the individual turns 65 they are removed from their already short income of food (usually around a hundred dollars per month benefit) and now reduced to $16.00 or less food benefits per month.

The supposed change is due to the fact that many elderly people begin to draw their Social Security and Medicare at age 65 –  so DHS says that since they draw Medicare for hospital expenses etc. and Social Security they no longer are no longer eligible for food stamps (only $10-$16 per month).

Now Medicare holds out around one- hundred dollars per month for their part to cover hospital expenses and pays out 80% which means you are personally responsible for 20% of the bill regardless of the amount.  And many of the elderly only receive about two hundred a month if that from Social Security to live on unless they have jobs they have worked for years and paid in a lot of money to social security.

The key here is that many people have been disabled for years due to unfortunate events in their lives and when they did work they paid in social security to find out in their unfortunate years they had basically nothing coming to live on. Now they cannot even depend on food stamps to eat much less enough income to pay their living expenses (i.e. water, electric, transportation, rent, hospitalizations).

Now if you are young and have one, five to ten kids you can not only draw $500 – $1000 a month in food stamps, receive TANF, WIC, and a multitude of benefits. And Reality Check is that these young people are for the most part able to work they just refuse to do so and would rather draw money and food from the state rather than work.

And if you draw more than $750.00 per month you are not eligible for food stamps.

american-flagSo somebody please tell me what the hell is going on with our system that wants to starve and mistreat the elderly?   These are the people who started the businesses, began the schools, raised our state to what it is today with their tax dollars and helped to implement our laws and paid their way, they fought in World War I, World War II, Korea, Vietnam  – just because they are Baby Boomers and getting old does not mean they are dead yet and do not need help.

In my opinion we need to start doing something about these laws! We have sat in our living rooms and watched the elections and all that is going on that keeps taking our country down and us with it. Americans rise up and let us do something write your congress, write your governors and the president until they get sick of seeing letters from you. Organize your neighborhoods – get the elderly involved and let us make some serious changes!

Remember today you might be young but what about a few years from now????

Warren: A True Story of Determination and Courage

By Coyalita Linville B.H.R.S

In the winter of 1933 the snow was falling as quickly as one could blink their eyes in large full fluffy crystals that glittered like diamonds when looked upon. The temperature was 30 degrees and like a small speck in the scene of winter stood a five year old boy on the street with a bundle in his arms and calling “get the News Here – hot off the press!”

Warren was only five but he was brilliant, curious and was taking his family out of the poverty they lived in. His father had lost his job due to illness in the summer and Warren and his brother had to find employment to just put food on the table and help to pay bills. What seemed like an impossible task did not deter him – It did not matter he had a crippled arm due to birth defect – nor that he had a cleft mouth – he was a determined little boy that not only would he help his parents but many others too throughout his life.

Warren had just got his job at the local Shawnee News Star Paper in Shawnee, Oklahoma all he did was go in and talk to the owner and tell him he wanted a job and the man hired him right off he could hardly believe it until the next morning when he left out of the newspaper office and was standing there all bundled up and calling for people as they passed by to buy a paper.

He did not care if it was snowing or cold all he cared about was the joy he was feeling inside and how it made his lips curl in that big smile on his face. The third person that trudged by out of the local post office purchased Warren’s first newspaper; from that day on he was unstoppable.

Warren continued to work for the Shawnee News Star until he was twenty-five and he married. No, he did not sell papers standing on the corner that entire time, even though he sold more papers than any other. As stated earlier he was a curious boy, so every spare minute he was not selling the papers he was watching what each person did what and how they did it in the print shop. By age fifteen he was hired to run the printing machines and by age sixteen he was not only running the print machines, he was saving all the money he made to one day open his own newspaper, a childish dream? Perhaps but later he became a millionaire.

Warren moved to Alpine, Texas and opened up his own print shop and having many Hispanic people in the area he not only printed his newspaper in English but Hispanic as well. He also sold office supplies and some food items but predominantly it was all about the newspaper. He went to college and furthered his writing degree and studies and became one of the most well- known men in many areas of news writing and business.

He did get his arm fixed and his mouth although it would not have truly mattered to anyone for Warren was a special person, kind, considerate and he had a spirit that just made one feel good being in the man’s presence.

In the year 2005 I had the pleasure of meeting Warren – the impression that man had on me has been everlasting. It is funny how the world and time works around us – most certainly in this experience I could not believe it but knew it to be true- “you never know where destiny will take you.”

My father died in 1995 leaving my mother a widow and after many years she joined a pen pal list and she wrote Warren a letter. Now mind you that she did not know Warren at all even though they had both lived in Shawnee, Oklahoma and grew up there. They became fast friends through letters and of course my mother had absolutely no idea that Warren had any money other than his social security and a pension. Which made no difference to her she was looking for companionship not money.

Finally, Warren asked her to come to Alpine on a visit and she agreed. He fell in love with my mother at first sight as he told me often and they married. It did not last long because my mother is not one to tolerate disrespect from anyone and had many toe to toe experiences with Warren’s daughter Cathy. Finally mother left and came to live with me back in Oklahoma, keep in mind that still my mother did not know Warren had money and lots of it. This later explained why his daughter was having feelings and hated my mother more than likely believing she was just a “gold digger.”

Furthermore, we found out that Warren had lived a block away around the corner from my mother when they were growing up and they had never met –now is that not ironic?

A few months went by and Warren would call and mother would refuse to talk to him – in between moving home with me and separating from Warren along with divorce. She had traveled to her Sister’s house in Illinois and met another man called “Ernie”, who she married. And although he was decent to her, his children caused them many problems and when she found out I was coming home to Oklahoma she made plans to live with me and left him.

I being a Criminal Justice major and having worked many years in law I drew up her divorce papers and filed them at the local county court. The divorce was finalized and crazy as it sounds it was almost as if Warren had ESP because he called two days later.

He convinced my mother to come back to him he now lived in Austin, Texas and she decided to go, yet rather than she ride a bus I volunteered to drive her down there. I must say I was a little anxious about going to meet her ex but thought “what the heck, lets’ do this.” I can honestly say that I will never regret that day when I met Warren nor all the times we spent talking, laughing and intellectual conversations in to the late hours of the night.

Warren’s life had not been easy by a long shot – he had worked since he was five years old and supported those he loved as well as his wife and children until she died. Yet the man had become one of greatness in his own right – it did not matter he had been crippled or that he had a disfigured mouth as a child – all that mattered is that he had overcome all the obstacles that said: “you can’t do it!”
Warren did it and so can you it just takes courage and determination to fulfill your dreams – and when someone tells you that “you can’t do it” remember this story to find that you can.

Weight Loss is Battle for Some of Us!

Weight loss is not easy for many of us – most certainly it has been a battle I fought daily as a child growing up and throughout the years. I was diagnosed with a thyroid problem when I was seven years old. I endured the name calling at school and most certainly though I pretended that it just made me angry and I would get into many fights – reality was that it simply crushed me inside when I was called “fatty” or “hippo” and many other names. Children can be so cruel when young and make life miserable for others who are overweight and who have parents that just tell them “there is nothing wrong with you and you will grow out of it.”

And it is worse when family members say “you’re just chunky”, what the heck does that mean? Yet as you get older you discover that it is just a nice way of saying “You’re FAT! When I discovered this at twelve and was developing much faster than many of the girls at school I became withdrawn, shy and had no friends. My thinking was if you ignore them and do not have any friends then they will forget about you – nope it does not work that way.

At fourteen I weighed 160lbs. and I begged my parents to please get me some weight loss pills – but no that did not happen either, because “I was too young and just had baby fat” really?!   By the time I was sixteen I weighed 180lbs. and refused to look at myself in the mirror, because I hated myself.

Trust me I tried everything for the next few years from walking, running, exercising, starving, drinking nothing but water for days at a time, eating nothing but vegetables, and a million other ways. What I discovered was all of it worked a little and for a little while but that is all it did.

Now do not get me wrong I did not just lay around the house and eat I was a very active girl and helped my mother take care of five younger sisters and a brother as well as plant and work in the garden, can vegetables, go to school and I repeat “walking, running, exercising, starving, drinking nothing but water for days at a time, eating nothing but vegetables, and a million other ways.”

Then at twenty I discovered a miracle drug for fast weight loss in a magazine I read, it was called “Lypozene.” I secretly ordered it and was amazed at how fast I lost weight – I went from 280lbs to 130lbs in about two months. The only problem with that was I lost too much body fat too fast and ended up in the hospital. All the time telling myself “I feel great!” I even had a boyfriend and that was a first for me and every one was telling me I looked wonderful and what a difference the weight loss had done for me.

Reality check was I almost killed myself. My eyes were sunken in and I had dark circles under them, my skin is normally olive due to my Indian heritage and at that time it was very white. Only by the grace of my higher power I did not die.

My diagnosis of having a thyroid problem turned into hypothyroidism and due to the fact that the medication one has to take “levothyroxin or synthroid” to keep your thyroid working which controls every organ in your body – weight loss is nearly impossible and it does not matter how much you exercise or do not eat.

BUT! There is good news there is a product that does not affect your medication and it does work and you can and will lose weight. It is made of all natural products such as berries and fruits and comes in the form of chewable pills, shakes, and health drinks. I have been taking it for a year now and have lost over 60lbs.

The products are simple, easy to use, and will not cause any problem with the medications you may be on. I have not  gained any of the weight back I feel great and definitely no hospital trips. In fact it works so good that I decided to get a website and offer the products on it to people like you and me – here is where you can get yours.

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Domestic Violence

By: Coyalita Linville B.H.R.S.

Many of us become so afraid of our perpetrator we are afraid to hardly breathe much less leave or try to escape the situation. Some of us survive it and so many others do not whether adults or children. Many of us try to escape yet we are tracked down and tormented relentlessly by the perpetrator to the point that to finally get a few minutes peace we return to find ourselves still in the violence year after year until we just want to commit suicide because there seems to be no other way out of it.

When you have children you are in constant fear they will be killed before your eyes or you will be before theirs. There is no safety, no peace, just a continual fear that makes you terrified that somehow you will displease the perpetrator in one way or another by simply being in their presence.  You are told you cannot do anything right, you are stupid, you are ugly, you make them sick, and millions of other put downs they can come up with to make you feel less than their dog and they cheat on you. If you do get guts enough to leave then they want to threaten they are going to kill you, kill your children,parents, children, and any other family as well as kill themselves, if you go, or do not come back home.

You are not allowed to have any money of your own, nor allowed to buy anything for yourself and nothing for the children and let them know it. Pray that they do not see new clothing or anything that you bought for you without their knowledge.

Domestic Violence beats you down until you feel hatred for the perpetrator, you are in constant fear of your life and begin to hate yourself as well because no matter what you seem to do it is not right, not good enough and you are ugly and stupid. For those of us are are able to escape we find ourselves lost with no real direction but to stay free. We have anger issues, low self esteem, and fear within us. What do we do now?

First thing go and get counseling for yourself and children if you have them. If not just go for you. You have been a prisoner, abused, beaten and more than likely have forgotten how to live outside of the violence. KNOW you are NOT ugly, not stupid, and very capable of making it on your own and raising your children on your own if you have them.

Second, when you wake up in the mornings make a promise to yourself that “No matter what I am never going back!” and stick to it, no matter the threats, stalking and what anyone else has to say. Unfortunately we have parents out there that thinks “it is better for you to be with that person than to be alone in the world.” I have heard that one myself.

Third, below are some great self help books you can read if you wish that will help to guide you from those who have experienced what you have been through. Domestic Violence just did not happen in you life there are millions of women and men who experience it daily. And trust me when I say “there is no real love in domestic violence relationships.”

There are ways to escape and live a normal life and there are safe houses as well as agencies who help those alone and with children to get back to a normal life and escape this horrible imprisonment. “YOU DO HAVE A CHOICE.”

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Most of us who are abused realize that it is just that “abuse” and yet we find ourselves repeatedly going through the same old -same old everyday living in fear, anger and emotional upheaval.  If you are NOT certain you are being abused by family members or in a relationship then the following quiz will help you to decide.

Does your partner, your boyfriend or girlfriend, your friend, your caretaker, or a family member:

Make you feel uncomfortable or afraid?

  Often put you down, humiliate you, or make you feel worthless?

  Constantly check up on what you’re doing or where you are going?

  Try to stop you from seeing your own friends or family?

  Make you feel afraid to disagree or say ‘no’ to them?

  Constantly accuse you of flirting with others when this isn’t true?

  Tell you how the household finances should be spent, or stop you having any money for yourself?

  Stop you from having medical assistance?

  Scare or hurt you by being violent (like hitting, choking, smashing things, locking you in, driving dangerously to frighten you)

  Pressure or force you to do sexual things that you don’t want to do?

  Threaten to hurt you, or to kill themselves if you say you want to end the relationship?

  Have your children heard or seen these things or been hurt themselves?

Signs of Abuse

  • Abuse happens when one person tries to control or hurt another.
  • Abuse may be physical, such as hitting, pushing or choking.
  • Abuse can also be other things, like putting you down and making you feel worthless, or being possessive and jealous to stop you from speaking to friends or family. Forcing or tricking someone into doing sexual things is also abuse.


If you have answered ‘yes’ to any of these, then there are signs that you are not being treated right, or that you are being abused. if you don’t feel safe, respected and cared for, then something isn’t right.  

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What Happens to Our Homeless Children in America?

Homeless Elderly Man Protects Homeless Child

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Our Homeless Children in America are subjected to

Rape, Prostitution and Murder.

Can you even imagine what these children must go through to simply survive out there on
the streets alone? Have you heard about the many children that are prostituted to foreign
countries and Mexico?
Nearly a third of the children who flee or are kicked out of their homes each year engage in sex
for food, drugs or a place to stay, according to a variety of studies published in academic and
public health journals. But this kind of dangerous barter system can quickly escalate into more
formalized prostitution, when money changes hands. And then, child welfare workers and
police officials say, it becomes extremely difficult to help runaways escape the streets. Many
become more entangled in abusive relationships, and the law begins to view them more as
teenage criminals than under-age victims. (New York Times, 2009)

Read the Statistics Below:

According to non-governmental U.S. sources;

  • Average victims age is 11 to 14
  • Approx 80% are women and children bought, sold and imprisoned in the underground sex service industry
  • Average life span of a victim is reported to be 7 years (found dead from attack, abuse, HIV and other STD’s, malnutrition, overdose or suicide)

The largest group of at-risk children are runaway, thrown away, or homeless American children who use survival sex to acquire food, shelter, clothing, and other things needed to survive on America’s streets. According to the National Runaway Switchboard  1.3 million runaway and homeless youth live on America’s streets every day. [5,000 die each year] It would not be surprising to learn that the number of children trafficked in the United States is actually much higher than 300,000.

Children are often targeted by traffickers as they are deemed easier to manipulate than adults. More money can be earned by younger girls and boys exploited in sexual exploitation, especially virgins. Pre-pubescent girls are reported to be injected with hormones to bring on puberty. Younger girls are expected to have a greater earning potential, and as such are in greater demand.

The impact:

  • Human trafficking has surpassed the illegal sale of arms
  • Trafficking will surpass the illegal sale of drugs in the next few years
  • Drugs are used once and they are gone. Victims of child trafficking can be used and abused over and over
  • A $32 billion-a-year industry, human trafficking is on the rise and is in all 50 states (U.S. Government)
  • 4.5 Million of trafficked persons are sexually exploited
  • Up to 300,000 Americans under 18 are lured into the commercial sex trade every year
  • From 14,500 – 17,500 of those victims are trafficked into the United States each year

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